Does he love you?

It's a fact well known but not often discussed, that many of the guys hitting at girls nurse feelings which are dominantly carnal. So, how do you know if the guy who claims that you are the love of his life is speaking the truth or not? Fairly simple. In almost all the affairs that I have witnessed, I found that those guys who were serious about the girl they claimed to love, respected the girl, and kept a physical distance. A serious guy cannot even think of touching the girl until he makes her his till death, by means of marriage (for which he does make sincere efforts) . On the contrary, those guys who thought of their girl as nothing more than a boy's toy, hinted or worst still, pushed the girl for sex, and after their demand was met with, they looked for a new prey. You think I am exaggeratting? Alright, picture the following true event.

A Delhi based girl meets a Hyderabad based boy (whom I unfortunately know through a common friend) through the internet. The boy charms her with sweet talk, which would occasionally be mixed with talk not so innocent. Given the seasoned player that the boy is, she falls for him so hard that she decides to shift her base to Hyderabad. She arrives to our city, he takes her shopping, puts her up in a posh hotel, and...you got it right, has sex with her. The next day he' gone. Frantic calls from the girl are answered by the boy's filthy friends who address her using filthy language. She does not mind. The boy suggests his friends to try the girl for themselves. She is bears the verbal insult. Finally, the boy insults her before his new girl. This proves to hard blow and she gets suicidal. Finally someone convinces her against suicidal thoughts and sends this emotionally wrecked girl back to Delhi. She was 17 years old. Imagine a 17 year old innocent girl being pushed to the edge of life by someone who she thinks is her first love!

Let's discuss a true case of another girl with a different profile. This one is an educated lady working in one of the best M.N.Cs. A co-worker of hers chases her, and she finally falls in love with him. She visualises a marriage with him. He, however starts pushing for sex (very typical in case of perverts). She refuses being the decent lady that she is, and he threatens to break up being the pervert that he is. She gives in to "save" her relationship. Is the relationship saved after sex, like she had hoped. No. Last heard, she was yet to come out of the emotional tornado he had left her in.

The above cases are those of girls with different profiles. While the former case is that of a teenaged student, the latter case is that of an educated, working lady. This shows that women of all kinds can fall prey to perverts if they are not careful enough. If the guy who claims to love you respects you and keeps a physical distance, then you can think of having a future with him in form of a marriage, if the marriage has practical chances of taking place. If the guy gives out signs which are not so innocent, then rest assured that he'll leave you after taking advantage of you. Such cases are always more trying for the girls since there is not only the heart-break to take care of, but also there is the imperishable threat of the girl's name and her family's name being tarnished for a long time. The society is not as forgiving in the case of the girls as it is in the case of the boys.

Now I hope you can tell weather the guy claiming to love you is speaking the truth or not. You might even consider helping your friends in this case. No one has the right to have cheap thrills at the expense of your life. Beware.